The voice in my head is loud. Too loud sometimes.
It criticises, nags, interrupts, doubts, and reminds me of every mistake I’ve ever made. But here’s the truth: that voice isn’t the boss. I am.
Letters to My Inner Voice is my attempt to set the record straight. Instead of letting that chatter run wild, I’m writing back. Each letter is a reminder that I get the final say — not the anxious mutterings, not the cruel commentary, not the endless “what ifs.”
Because left unchecked, that voice can wreck you. It tells you you’re not good enough. It keeps you awake at night re-playing conversations. It makes small problems feel enormous.
Eckhart Tolle calls it unnecessary negative mind activity. Ethan Kross calls it chatter. Buddhists have long called it the monkey mind. I just call it a pain in the ass.
But there’s another way. When I answer back — firmly, kindly, clearly — I remind myself: I’m the one steering this ship.
The inner voice still has an important role. It runs the engine room. It keeps the systems humming, warns me of danger, fuels the journey. But it doesn’t get to take the wheel. We’ve got to work together — captain and crew — or we’ll both run into an iceberg.
This project is part journal, part dialogue, part workshop. You’ll find letters to the inner voice on different themes I wrestle with. They’re written as conversations — sometimes compassionate, sometimes blunt, but always with one purpose: to reclaim control.
The Letters
- Letter 0 – Heads Up
- Not Good Enough
- More to come: fear, failure, comparison, perfectionism, and all the other tricks the voice likes to pull.
Why Write Letters?
Because an inner voice is just an echo of old outer ones — parents, teachers, critics, even bullies we absorbed along the way. Writing letters helps me separate me from them. It helps me install new voices — wiser, kinder, and yes, tougher when they need to be.
Pull up a chair. Listen in. Maybe you’ll hear your own voice in mine. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll start writing back to yours too.